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August 13, 2019 lifestyle•personal

26 things I’ve learned

Fashion Blogger Fii talks about 26 things

It was a birthday weekend (mine), and this year I turned 26. Which is an age that kind-of sort-of maybe terrifies me. Time is ticking away yady-yady-yada, meaningful happenings etc, what are my long-term goals???? It’s a fun time when I’m not quite having an existential crisis, buy mildly having an existential crisis, yaknow.

But, in the spirit of trying to sort out my life I’m thinking about 26 things that I’ve learned or come to realise in the last year / 26 of them.

26 things

1. Health really is wealth. Since March I’ve been dealing with A Lot More in terms of workload at the old 9-5 (teaching is never easy and whoever says it is, is lying), and I’ve been Feeling It. So I’ve been making an actual concerted effort in the last two months to start looking after myself: drinking enough water, sleeping enough, exercise, I’ve even had a stab at planning meals – and I have been feeling better. It’s not dumb to be health conscious, and it’s not dumb to be careful about what you’re putting in your body (unless it’s to your health’s detriment – cause I have also been there).

2. The 1 minute rule is a good principle to follow to help you get through some of the bigger tasks in life. I’ve heard about it on social media and it’s attributed to Gretchen Rubin. The principle is pretty simple, if it’ll take 1 minute or less to do it, then just do it, and the end goal is that it makes your life easier because you’re managing the more menial tasks. It sounds like common sense, but when you are a serial procrastinator (me) or get overwhelmed by tasks easily unless under immense pressure (also me!) then it’s a pretty great thing to start implementing imho. I started recently with simple tasks; taking things to the kitchen when I was done, making the bed, putting things back in their places, and it has helped. So I decided to apply it to the Massive Problem in my flat: my kitchen / horrific, horrific floordrobe. I started with ‘just folding finished laundry’ then moved to ‘sorting out clothes into ‘hang’ and ‘wash’, next was hanging the hang pile, then starting on the laundry pile – and I was done in an evening. So I’d suggest giving this a try.

3. Another recent realisation is that being comfortable with yourself, doing things by yourself for yourself is something that I should be doing more. I watched a video by bestdressed where she took herself on a date because she’s been trying not to lose herself in her relationship and saving all the best spots to explore together – and I was sat there going ‘hey, I relate to this’. I have a lot of hangups about doing things by myself, and I’ve been trying to climb over those hurdles.

4. Dogs are wonderful and pets in general are a great asset to your life. Unless you are allergic.

5. Do the things you want to do, even if you feel you look dumb doing it. I struggle greatly with the mental playground of caring too much about what other people might think of me. It comes from years of people pleasing, but I have been really trying to shake off all the potential ‘what if’s and underlying feeling that someone’s going to say something. And if they do, so what? If I’m not hurting anyone, or doing anything illegal, then what’s the problem? I guess people still have a stigma around social media related careers and the bad apples in the world of vlogs and video content, not to mention the vitriol spouted by traditional media …

Regardless, I say as long as you aren’t hurting anyone, let the naysayers go about their naysaying and do the thing you want to do. Limits aren’t fun, especially when they are self imposed. Take the photo. Wear the clothes. Write the thing. Share it as publicly as you wish.

6. Tea. Drink Tea. Green teas, herbal teas, blooming teas. They’re great.

7. Hydration! There is no miracle cream, or routine around (yet) that will work as well on your skin, health, and mind as much as drinking enough water will. It’ll be different for everyone, but I’ve been trying to drink just over 2 litres of water every day.

8. Staying on the theme of skincare, routine, routine routine. Some people are lucky enough to have wonderful skin genetically. For the rest of us, the key part in skincare is the routine. Products help, yes, but if you don’t use them in a routine, and keep that routine, you’re not letting what you’ve (maybe) spent a decent amount of money on do its job. Whenever my skin has relapsed, it’s because I broke my routine.

9. Plants! Plants lift your mood and are less commitment than a pet 🙂 Loads of health benefits, and greenery in your home has been shown to reduce stress and create a feeling of well-being. It’s not just an instagram or pinterest cliche, plants are wonderful (and really useful).

10. Like what you like. Adulthood isn’t high school, and being ashamed of what you like (unless they’re like, illegal) is ridiculous. There is nothing cuter than people talking enthusiastically about their passions. Or being totally confident in their style choices.

11. Cutting ties with someone is a difficult thing, but recognising toxicity and trying to remove it from your life is going to keep you happier in the long run. Your friends should be supporting your endeavours, not bringing you down. I’m not talking about surrounding yourself with a bunch of ‘yes-men’ type friends, because that’s just as toxic in the grand scheme of things (we all need someone who will drag us back to reality), but if your friendship is filled with backhanded compliments and a lot of slights against your achievements, they’re not good friends. CuT thEm LooOsE.

12. Similarly, saying ‘no’ is also a difficult thing when we’re taught to accept ‘opportunities’ that could ‘potentially help us progress’ because this 24/7 hustle malarky is a popular spiel. It’s OK to turn down jobs if you have prior commitments. It’s OK to say no if it’s going to stress you out. It’s OK if it’s too much. Knowing your boundaries is a great thing, and it’s something that I am learning to keep.

13. Keep up with your hobbies. All work and no play makes for faster burnout. Even if it’s listening to music, or watching videos, or going for a walk – having to time to just switch off and enjoy doing something for the sake of doing it is sooooOOOOO good for the brain. I’m guilty of trying to overstretch or constantly DO DO DO, and let me tell youuu I crash hard. (Hence the long absences of posts / videos). If you don’t have a hobby, start one!!

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14. Stress is evil, but also mildly inevitable, and isn’t that just a catch 22. Try to minimise it as much as you can. Don’t hold grudges, talk through your problems, if it isn’t within your power to change or ‘fix’, then it really isn’t worth your extra energy stressing about it.

15. Respecting people’s time has become a really important factor to me in the last year or so. I used to be OK, maybe agitated, if people were late to meet me up to about half an hour with no message. Things happen, sometimes unavoidable, though I would always give people a heads up if I knew my expected/revised ETA. Since adopting Toast, though, I am much more conscious about timing and people respecting both my time and me. If you’re going to be late, message within a decent time frame. When you’re disrupting the routine of your dependents to fall in line with someone else, that’s not cool. If they keep doing it? Chances are they don’t respect you.

16. Lift people up, whether it be a like here, a comment there, or a ‘you’re doing great, I appreciate you and what you’re doing’. Life is tough, we don’t have to be selective or limited with compliments, likes, or comments. If you like something, tell the person who did / created the thing.

17. Other people are not responsible for your happiness. They can make you smile, laugh, and feel freer, relief, or whatever you are after, in those moments, but depending on other people for serotonin and a balancing of emotions is unhealthy. Will Smith made a great point when he said that it wasn’t his job to make Jada (his wife) happy, which also applies, as it deconstructs the unrealistic expectation that someone else has to shoulder your emotional burden, along with their own. That’s A Lot for any one person to do. It can also tank relationships.

18. Having a boring, quiet life, is great. I’ve had enough drama in my life, and there’s plenty of time for stories later on, but right now I’m super happy with staying in, getting up early on a Saturday to go hang out with friends and work on myself.

19. Yoga is fabulous.

20. I still don’t have my life together, but that’s OK. I’m getting there.

21. Scheduling your time is really useful. Whether it’s just setting reminders about when to vacuum, blocking out time to exercise, see your friends, or purge your wardrobe, it’s good to have a ‘kind of plan’ for the big and little things so you can fit the ‘wing it’ things in around it.

22. Forgiving yourself is also useful. If you don’t accomplish something on your to-do list, or a goal you had set, don’t beat yourself up about it. 🙂 You can try again tomorrow.

23. Therapy is not a dirty word, or a waste of time. Sometimes unloading your problems on to someone who is removed from the situation and (mostly) unbiased is actually really liberating. Coming from someone who lives in a country where the stigma around mental health is stifling, it’d be great to see therapy being a more normalised route to help with personal problems.

24. Ghosting is not only immature, but leaves people yearning for closure and then projecting. While the aftermath is not your responsibility, I have been on both sides of the ghosting coin and it’s a whole load of confusion and self-doubt when you’re the ghostee, or a whole load of guilt when you’re the ghoster. Have a message saved in your drafts to copy-paste into those difficult conversations where the feelings have died (or never really got started) that thanks them for the conversation but you don’t see it going anywhere. If they react well, great, if they’re dickish about it then forget ’em.

25. Shoot your shot. If the recent political antics in the US / UK have been any indication, who you know and what you’ve done (or ‘done’) can count for more than your grades or work history. Seriously, if you think you’d do great at a job but don’t have the exact qualifications, send your CV in anyway, but with cover letter (crucially) outlining your strengths and transferable skills. We have a cheeto for a President and a wotzit for a Prime Minister, anything can happen.

26. CLIMATE CHANGE IS REAL. We need to do more to prevent the destruction of our planet. Use less plastic. Shop more consciously / environmentally. Recycle, upcycle, reuse. Make those small changes.


What are some other life lessons you’ve come to realise? Let me know down below if you have any others – or if you agree with mine.

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#협찬 Using the right sunscreen for your skin ty #협찬 Using the right sunscreen for your skin type is *drum roll* actually very important -- and I'm not just talking about SPF levels for different skin tones. 

Choosing the right sunscreen helps to avoid irritation, breakouts, and makes you more likely to apply it regularly, which gives your skin the best chance at avoiding things like melanoma (skin cancer) and premature aging. 

Determining your skin type >>
For me, finding my skin type was super easy. S E N S I T I V E. I'm horrifically eczema prone (have a whole series on my blog about this), and lean towards a routine that is simple but hydrating, staying away from too many actives. It's the reason I take forever to put up skincare reviews, because I have to check for reactions, or develop contact dermatitis from different ingredients. 

BUT - that's not all. See, I lean towards Sensitive-dry, which is why my skin care, and my sun care, focuses more on hydrating products. 

What determines your skin type? How much oil (sebum) your skin produces daily. 

Dry >> 
Does your skin feel tight? Less elastic?  Does it become rough or flaky easily? Dehydrated? Not a lot of shine in your T-zone? Then your skin type is probably dry. 

Oily >>
Do you get really shiny during the day? (Especially in your t-zone) Do you suffer from (manageable*) breakouts, blackheads and/or whiteheads? Then your skin type is probably oily. 

Normal >> 
Is your skin neither oily throughout the day, and doesn't feel dry, or tight, or often irritated? Your pores aren't too noticeable, and you rarely have breakouts? Then your skin is probably normal! Lucky you :) 

Combination >>
Are you oily in your t-zone (forehead, nose, chin) and dry or normal skin on your cheeks? Then you have combination skin <3. It's a little harder to care for, because you're often trying to battle with contrasting products 
(my tip: you're gonna want a sunscreen that's suitable for 'all skin types' ;))

So, now you know more about skin types, scroll through for my picks for each, and my current favourite sun screen <3 

Let me know your skin type AND your current sun screen in the comments below, and don't forget to #applysunscreenaddprotection <3
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#협찬 Q: what’s the most important skincare s #협찬  Q: what’s the most important skincare step?
Fii’s answer: SUNSCREEN!!!!!!!!!!!! 

This is a question i get asked quite a bit, and my answer has been the same for ages. The step in my skincare I absolutely never skip is: sunscreen. 

So I’m really excited to be taking part in @wishtrend ‘s #ASAPchallenge: #applysunscreenaddprotection 😊 This challenge is to help build the habit of applying sunscreen DAILY for 5 weeks. It takes 28 days to form a habit.. so let’s do this together ^^ 

There are some great perks for wishtrend users for taking part with me too! For everyone who posts content during this challenge, you get 1,000 wishtrend points and 3 promo codes to pick up your favourite wishtrend products 😊 And!! we get to protect our skin from sun damage and early signs of aging 😚

what do you say? 
Also what’s your ‘never skip’ skincare step? 

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hands up if you like cafes! 🙌🏻 hands up if y hands up if you like cafes! 🙌🏻 hands up if you like cafes with cute mascots 🙌🏻🤭🤭🤭 

then i have a cafe recommendation for you~~ 

this cute (deceptively large) place is @for_tourists_dotori_garden by Anguk station, and i had a great afternoon enjoying the atmosphere with great company and great baked goods and i’m not at all noting the aesthetics for my own future cafe 🤭

꿀팁 - if you search 분좋카 on instagram then you’ll find a bunch of very aesthetic cafes around seoul that all have a great atmosphere (분•위기 좋•은 카•페 = 분좋카) ❤️❤️ 

📌 dotori garden // 도토리가든 
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changing room mirror selfies and a tiny headed bea changing room mirror selfies and a tiny headed bear. 🐻 

(yay for no winter coat weather) 

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{ #ad #협찬 #gifted } Vegan skincare is on the r { #ad #협찬 #gifted }
Vegan skincare is on the rise, and I received these beautiful Vegan Lip Butters from @melixirskincare_kr ❤️
Melixir is vegan, sustainable, and cruelty free, that has a range of products that are great for sensitive skin like mine :) 

I’m absolutely loving the easy wearability of “04 Dewy Rose”, and the agave infused formula is great for my lips (guess who doesn’t drink enough water…). 

“05 Red Velvet” is a buildable red, that isn’t too harsh or bright for those days you want a little colour, but don’t want to faff about with lip liners ❤️

📌 you can find melixir products at Amazon (worldwide), or if you’re in Korea, Olive Young and Melixir’s website ❤️

What’s your favourite lip product these days? 

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(hanbok from @palace.fox - my #1 rec for hanbok rental ❤️) 

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we went blonde 💅👸 ☁️ ☁️ ⛅️ # we went blonde 💅👸 

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#whatfiiwore
#협찬 #광고 skincare for glowing skin when yo #협찬 #광고  skincare for glowing skin when you don’t have time for extensive routines? i’m loving the @klairs.global fundamental line :) 

named because it’s formulated to take care of your skin’s fundamental needs, this is a great line to reach for when you’re busy, or just need something simple to satisfy your skin. 

cream: 
the fundamental water gel cream is super light weight for easy absorption into the skin. it’s packed with green tea for vitamin e, antioxidants and calming, which with the way my eczema has been recently i def need.

mist: 
the fundamental ampule mist os a great product to have to top up when your skin is feeling dry, or as layered with 7 skins. it’s got so many nutrients to make your skin feel refreshed and hydrated. 

eye cream
i’m always a bit hmm over eye creams that don’t have actives (like retinol or derivatives) but i’ve been reading about the benefits of using peptides for the under-eye area specifically and i’m not saying the results are magic, but i’ve seen an improvement when i’ve been using peptide formulated products in that area. so. jury is still out but i’m not mad. 
#the formula of this cream is also super thick and creamy so it feels really nourishing 😇🫶 

overall it’s been a great experience so far, and it’s definitely made me remember why i liked klairs products way back when i started blogging ❤️

products courtesy of @wishtrend via @nurilounge.official ❤️❤️

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✨ fiicore ✨ the princess / abandoned castle ✨ fiicore ✨ 

the princess / abandoned castle vibes are strong here

⛅️ ☁️ clouds

#reels #reelstrend #reelstrends #coreaesthetic #princesscore #princesscoreaesthetic #softgirlaesthetic #softgirl
things i carry on the daily: 💼 @marhen.j kai things i carry on the daily: 

💼 @marhen.j  kai bag in urban black 
beauty products 
@romandyou waterfit cushion 
@keepintouch_makeup jelly lip plumper in bloody wine 
@espoir_makeup water splash cica tone up sun cream 

ipad cover is from @from.pick 

not pictured: work badge -,-, lip balm, assorted receipts 😅

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새해 복 많이 바드세용~ 🐰 happy lunar 새해 복 많이 바드세용~ 
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happy lunar new year from me and the floof and the personal growth we’ve been doing so far this month ☺️😊😌

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i don’t do these challenges but this was one cut i don’t do these challenges but this was one cute 

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pov: you’re cafe hopping in seoul ❤️ tell pov: you’re cafe hopping in seoul ❤️ 

tell me a place and a time and i’ll come to hang out ❤️🥰 

📍 cafe seongbukro/ @seongbukro 
it’s beautiful~~~ 

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#서울카페 #서울카페추천 #카페릴스 #retroaesthetic
finally got a silky wrap skirt and it makes me fee finally got a silky wrap skirt and it makes me feel like i’m about to go to barre again 🩰 

skirt @dollsattitude 

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2022 was uh… a year (if u saw me trying to pos 2022 was uh… a year 

(if u saw me trying to post this already, no u didn’t 😂😂🤡🤡🤡🤡) 

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#2022년 #2023 #2022roundup
when ur as excited for coffee as u are for christm when ur as excited for coffee as u are for christmas and also music show broadcasts bc i am that girl now 😌😌😌😌😌 u only live once and all ✌️ 
merry holidays i hope ur day is merry and bright ⛄️ 

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